I miss my ex girlfriend every day

Missing an ex-girlfriend every day is a painful experience that many people go through after a breakup. It's normal to feel a range of emotions, from sadness to longing, and to wonder if these feelings will ever fade. In this article, you'll learn to understand your emotions, find healthy ways to cope, and explore whether moving forward or rekindling the relationship is possible.

Understanding Your Emotions

Breakups can be emotionally overwhelming, leaving you feeling lost and confused. It's essential to recognize that these feelings are natural. Here are some common emotions you might experience:

·       Sadness: Mourning the loss of the relationship and the good times you shared.

·       Loneliness: Feeling a void where your ex used to be in your life.

·       Regret: Wishing things had ended differently or wondering what could have been.

·       Longing: Missing your ex so much that it's hard to focus on anything else.

Understanding these emotions is the first step towards healing.

Is It Normal to Miss Your Ex?

It's normal to miss your ex, especially if the relationship is significant. Missing someone you once shared your life with is part of the healing process. However, if missing your ex affects your daily life and happiness, it might be time to take proactive steps to cope with these feelings.

Healthy Ways to Cope

Coping with the loss of a relationship requires time and effort. Here are some strategies to help you manage your feelings:

·       Express Your Emotions: Talk to a friend or write in a journal about how you're feeling. Bottling up emotions can make them harder to deal with.

·       Stay Busy: Engage in activities you enjoy, which can distract you from thinking about your ex. This could be hobbies, exercise, or spending time with friends. When doing this, make sure you are doing healthy forms of distraction, and keeping it in moderation. Working 70 hours a week or playing video games most of the day is not going to be helpful. 

·       Limit Contact: If possible, limit contact with your ex. This can help you heal without constant reminders of what you've lost.

·       Practice Self-Care: Take care of your physical and mental health. Eat well, get enough sleep, exercise, and practice mindfulness or meditation to reduce stress.

·       Seek Professional Help: If you struggle to cope, consider talking to a therapist. They can provide strategies and support to help you through this tough time.

Moving Forward

Moving forward after a breakup is challenging but possible. Here are some steps to help you on this journey:

·       Reflect on the Relationship: Think about what worked and what didn't. This can help you understand what you want in future relationships.

·   Take Ownership: Relationship break ups are not usually 100% someone's fault. Regardless of what happened, reflect on how you contributed to the break down in the relationship. This might bring on some frustration towards yourself, but use this energy as motivation and inspiration to make small incremental improvements in your life. The idea is to "dig for the gold in the mud". This is referring to finding the courage to reflect on the relationship, sit with the pain, and discovering a life lesson that will be helpful for you in the future.

·    Set New Goals: Focus on personal growth and setting new goals for yourself. This can provide a sense of purpose and direction. Invest your new found time and energy on developing yourself in a certain direction.

·       Meet New People: Open yourself up to new social opportunities. Meeting new people can help you feel less isolated and more connected.

·    Avoid Self-Pity: Sometimes we can feel sorry for ourselves and take a victim mentality. We can start feeling like "nothing works out for me", or "no one loves me, so whats the point?" This belief system is tempting to buy into because it removes our responsibility..... "There's  nothing i can do about it" after all. Don't fall for this trap, this will make things worse. Be aware of these mindsets that can sabotage your recovery. Review the "Take Ownership" step. This step is hard and painful but necessary.

Rekindling the Relationship

Sometimes, people wonder if they should try to get back with their ex. Here are some things to consider before taking that step:

·       Assess the Reasons for the Breakup: Understand why the relationship ended. Were the issues fixable, or were they fundamental incompatibilities?

·       Have an Honest Conversation: If you decide to reach out to your ex, have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and the possibility of getting back together.

·       Take It Slow: If both of you agree to give it another try, take things slowly. It is crucial to rebuild trust and ensure the issues that led to the breakup are addressed.

Conclusion

Breaking up with your girlfriend is a complex and often heartbreaking experience. It's normal to feel a range of emotions, from sadness to longing. You can navigate this challenging time by understanding your feelings, finding healthy ways to cope, and considering your options for moving forward. Whether you move on or explore the possibility of rekindling the relationship, remember that healing takes time and patience. You deserve to find happiness, whether with someone new or with someone you still miss.

Need a hand managing these feelings? Your friendly team at Key Psychological is waiting for you to book a free consultation. Feel free to reach out today.